Parenting Trickle Over?

So my husband and I are expecting our first child in a few months. I decided to make this blog post as a way to capture this "moment in time" so that way I can go back to it in a few years (with a few thousand tantrums under our belts) and laugh.

I've been teaching for almost ten years now. While teaching in no way prepares you for things like 2am projectile vomit or teething, it does give you quite a bit of experience dealing with things like temper tantrums. Naturally this has made me wonder how much teaching will rub off on my parenting skills.

I have no answers, really. More just musings. It occurred to me that I've been intensively watching other parents interact with their kids for a long time now. I've even had to go so far as to praise or correct a parent on how he/she is handling practicing situations as they come up at home. Doing this every day for years has naturally made me form subconscious opinions about what kind of parent I want to be.

So it'll be an interesting science experiment (for lack of a better term)! After so many years of giving parents tips and tricks, it'll be interesting to see how this advice changes after having been in the trenches myself.

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